I understand your pain, I have also experienced it, but you must now continue to use your logical mind. In many people, emotions take over completely ... emotions that they express to their ex. Result: terribly hopeless and embarrassing displays towards their ex.
Blunder # 1: Stalking, Stalking and Stalking Again
Chances are that you experience so little control when your ex has left you that you send messages continuously out of emotion. You then think to increase your kind of chances that your ex will contact. In reality, your ex will only become more convinced of his choice this way. You only drive him or her further away ...
So stop with:
- Send apps continuously
- Check your ex's Facebook
- Texting, calling etc...
Just pretend for a few weeks as if you have disappeared from the face of the earth! If you have children, you cannot avoid contact indeed. In this case, you keep conversations short and don't expect anything. You just have to be patient… because as they always sing in music “good things come to those who wait”.
Stalking is the best way to NEVER see your ex again. Something that will come out anyway if you ignore this tip.
Blunder # 2: beg and try to arouse pity
Here you have another ridiculous blunder. You are now going to give all your power to your ex, while the person currently has all the power ... your emotions now assume that if you give someone everything he or she wants, that you miraculously return something to you again. want.
If you made a big mistake and your ex broke up, you have to show that you are sorry and even several times… but to beg that the other person to take you back is hopeless.
The tactic behind "begging" is, in addition to relinquishing control, the idea of trying to generate compassion. This does not work for women anyway. The rest of the attraction she still had for you then completely disappears. She doesn't want to have anything to do with men who are pathetic.
In men it works a little less bad, but the results are still drastic. This may work for a small group of men, who more often accept unacceptable behavior because they are sub-assertive. But in general, I definitely advise against it.
Blunder # 3: Attempting to manipulate your ex
Some people are easy to influence with a number of techniques. Throughout the relationship, you may have already identified those weaknesses. It may not be appreciated to start using it with your ex as soon as you leave it.
Your ex will literally see that you are trying to take advantage of your ex's weaknesses. Your ex can be manipulated by this. As a result, the influencing technique no longer works. Your ex has even become aware that you use manipulative tricks like that.
If you are going to influence your ex (more positive words than 'manipulate') you have to do it subtly, so a bit inconspicuously.
Blunder # 4: Blaming the Other
This is something people naturally do. They think that doing something themselves is fine, but what the other person does is really not possible. Yet there are always two sides of the story, even if your ex has cheated on you. After all, it may well be that you gave your ex less attention.
For women, lack of attention is the biggest reason to cheat, for men they feel unappreciated. If you have neglected your partner, there is a chance that the other person is cheating and you can never say that it is 100% the other person's fault. This is not to say that cheating is good, but that you should remain objective.
Blunder # 5: lose control completely
This is actually the most painful ... You explode with anger and try to get your ex back with all kinds of empty accusations and screams. You understand that this is counterproductive and your ex will get the idea that you are not 100%… especially when violence is used.
The funny thing is that when partners break up, argue, and possibly take legal action, the woman almost always sees the man as narcissistic and the man sees the woman as insane. I think why that is so because of our learned beliefs.
Society still sees the woman as an emotional being who could just have an outburst ... Society sees the man more as someone with high ambitions and someone who wants power and status ... which in the extreme cases can lead to narcissistic behavior.
In reality, the roles can also be reversed, the woman is narcissistic and the man is insane 
In any case, it should be clear that losing control completely is the ALL of ALL worst strategy. It is the ALL of ALL the best way to NEVER be your ex again, or the other person must be very hopeless.
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